Is 1 Goal Enough; Are 3 Too Many?

 

I just received an email from a woman that took my Essentials of Starting A Business course 4 years ago. She took all that she learned and started a business while she continued to work in her job.

Within a year, her business was so successful that she quit her job and ran her business full time. During her second year of business, she got caught in what I call the “the shiny object syndrome” where she took her eye off her core business and started getting involved in other things that she thought would bring success. Within 6 months, she almost lost her business. She regrouped, focused on her main business and it took off again.

As she described what’s currently happening – things I’ve heard before from other clients – I decided to share her email so others can learn from her experience. To maintain confidentiality, I’ve changed her name and eliminated some personal details.

Dear Susan…

I hope this email finds you prosperous and happy :)) It HAS been a while since my last business confession… I mean conversation ;p

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I am doing well. Happy and healthy.

I have certain goals to achieve before I move next year to live abroad for 4 years. I’m working hard to get a decent momentum going.

I wanted to report that I think I had too many goals as 3 goals proved to be quite a juggling act. My #1 goal became a reality and I am excelling in it. My business is blooming nicely. The 2nd goal is a waiting game and the long-term future of my company depends on its success.

The 3rd goal was adding an activity to my company. When I did this, things started to go south very quickly so I had to cut it loose. I didn’t let it drag for 1 more month and it was so so so hard! But when you can foresee a big loss… cut and move on. Yes?

I spoke to a friend (entrepreneur / architect / opening high-end furniture shop) telling him of my actions when I saw the projects fell apart, etc. (I was upset and still unsure if I had cut it all too soon)…

He told me he envied me because he had a similar goal as well before, took a chance on it, saw it wasn’t going well, but stuck with it. He said he lost a lot of money over a 2 year period, came to realize it will not get any better… and finally closed it. He said with my quick action I saved thousands of Pride money ;)

So now I feel good about my decision and think … if it HAD worked, I would have felt overwhelmed as the project would have required a lot more attention. I’m happier and better focused on my 2 goals. I don’t need more, at least for 4 years… :))

That’s what I wanted to share with you

Love,

Sara

Here’s my response to her email.

Dear Sara,

It’s always wonderful to hear from you and learn about your discoveries and adventures!

Congratulations on your upcoming changes. Living abroad always gives a different perspective and great opportunities to grow and expand beyond our day-to-day limitations.

I agree that too many goals are hard to handle. I like to take a goal and break it down into bites. I can build the image of what I want to achieve and hold it firmly in my mind while taking actions to bring it in. It happens faster and I’m motivated by the little celebrations as they move me closer and closer.

I look for the 2 or 3 power moves that I can do each day and take those quickly. It’s not about busy work or taking on so much that one becomes overwhelmed, but those certain steps that you know will make an impact. If you aren’t sure what to do, sit quietly, relax and ask your higher self what action could you take that will serve you in your highest. Sometimes you may have to do this several or even many times over the course of days or weeks. Be open and willing to act when an idea comes to you.

I know you are very intuitive which is why you knew and followed that nudge to get out of that side of the business. Continue listening to your inner voice as that’s your greatest guide and asset.

Where are you moving to next year?

Onward and upward!

Lots of love

Susan

Realistically there are only so many goals that we can pursue at one time. I like to have a list of goals that I want to achieve over the next year or even 3 years. However, I look for the most important one and I focus on that. Sometimes, it seems almost like magic, when other goals on the list come into reality without any effort at all.

Flipping the Energy on Your Goal

 

What’s holding you back from enjoying a happy relationship, a successful business or whatever your dream goal is right now?

Most likely you have some fear or failure energy attached to the goal; particularly if this is something that you’ve been wanting for an extended period of time. It’s common to find negative energy underneath the desired goal. However if that negative energy is stronger than the positive energy, then it will control the outcome.

Here an exercise to flip the energy you are putting on the actions you are taking while working towards to your goal. Get colored pens, some paper and sit where you will be undisturbed.

1)   Write your goal at the top of the paper. Use words that inspire you, i.e., “My exciting trip to India.”

2)   Then write somewhere on the page the feelings you want be experiencing as you are working towards your goal. If you think of the old saying “It’s not the destination, it’s the journey”, how do you want to feel while you are on your quest towards your goal.

3)   Write some questions you can ask yourself to keep your focus on the feelings you choose to experience. As you go through the day from to time check to see what the answers are to those questions at that moment. See what you can do to bring yourself back into alignment with those feelings if you find you are out of sync.

4)  Take a few minutes and examine a couple of your typical stumbling blocks to achieving goals. For example, do you find yourself doing everything except what will take you towards to goal? Are you uptight and anxious about your goal? Are you working so hard without taking time for pleasure? Write down in simple, present tense what you would like to be or do instead of what you see you are being or doing.

5)   Create at least one mantra in simple, present tense that will inspire you each day to take action on your dream goal. It’s best if they are your own, but here are a few examples:

i)     I am an achiever and keep my focus on my joy.

ii)   I enjoy the present moment at all times.

iii)  I take pleasure in everything that I do.

6)   Write down what you will do when something comes up that appears to be an obstacle or negative. Making choices when you are in a situation gives you a better perspective.

Here’s an example:

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Do this and chart your progress over 30 days. Make any adjustments and keep going. You’ll reach your goals faster with less effort than ever before.

10 Inner Secrets of Success

I remember when I accepted a sales position with a tax law publishing company. It was straight commissions, no expenses and I worked from home. This job demanded a lot of self-motivation. I put together my plan of action by going through the computer print-outs of the customer database, set my dollar goal and got into action. Little did I know but the previous salesman, who had been employed by the company for 17 years, left under unhappy circumstances and took his anger out by convincing most of the customers to cancel their subscriptions. Now I had a choice: I could surrender my goal or get creative. I decided to make certain that everyone got the most value that they could out of their current subscription by spending an hour or so with the staff explaining some tips and tricks with the books. The reaction was nothing short of amazing. Many of them decided to re-subscribe and purchase other programs. At the end of the year, I hit my projected income within a mere $300.

We can change the outcomes in our lives by simply changing our own thoughts and decisions. We are conditioned to blame circumstances for our problems; but if this were true, then we would all be in the exact same circumstance. The difference between us is in the quality of our thoughts and ideas. We can become more effective in making changes if we know the underlying workings that govern our lives. As I thought about this and looked back over my sales career, I saw 10 keys that attributed to my success. I call them inner secrets because you can’t see them, but when you apply these to your life, the possibilities are unlimited.

1)             Cheerful expectancy: Expectation is such a wonderful word that promises excitement. Cheerful expectancy is even better. Just imagine waking up and just at the foot of your bed is a large package, wrapped in beautiful gold paper with a very large red bow tied around it. Guess what’s in there? It’s your day! Your gift is today and you can make it whatever you want. You can be enthusiastic, eager to do things and happily go about the simple matters of life or you can be tired, complaining and expecting the worst of things. Your approach to your day, your family, your clients – everything in life – is going to determine what you get back. Now I realize that there will be challenges some days, but even then, the way you approach those challenges has a significant impact on how the events will unfold. You will find that your attitude will be infectious and more good will come to you.

When I think about cheerful expectancy, I am reminded of one of the natural laws of the Universe; that being the Law of Polar Opposites. Simply this law states that opposites come with everything. So for example, you cannot have left without right, good without bad, in without out, up without down. The way to use this law then is to realize that no matter what happens during the day, you have the choice to focus on the positive or the negative. Whatever you choose to focus on, you’ll find and you can spend as much time as you want focusing on your choice. You can choose to see opportunity or you can choose to see lack. Use this law intentionally to create your experiences everyday.

2)             Set a goal and make a plan: When I was growing up and announced something that I wanted to have or to do, I was frequently asked how I was going to do it. Many times I didn’t know how so I surrendered the goal. Fortunately I came across Napoleon Hill’s book Think & Grow Rich in my early days of selling It was while reading this book that I discovered the importance of having goal along with the 6 steps to setting a goal which I still use today. I also learned that I didn’t have to know how I was going to achieve something; I only need to start advancing towards my goal and I would attract all the people, things and circumstances that I need in order to fulfill my goal. The ‘how’ doesn’t matter. Just build a big image of what it is that you want to achieve or to have, make a simple plan and start taking action. Just look for and take the first step.

3)             Do 1 proactive thing on your goal every single day: I have found in my own life as well as watching other people that it is very easy to let life get in the way of achieving your goal. By that I mean you can think that you are going to do something, but then other things come up so a day goes by, a week, a month, even a whole year and you haven’t moved any closer to the goal. Vow to do just one thing each day that will move you closer to your goal and do it first. Brian Tracy once said, “The urgent is never important and the important is never urgent.” What’s important is what you want to achieve in life and you have to put the urgency in there because no one else will.

4)             Deliver exceptional value strive for excellence: Look for how you can give your best in each interaction. There was a point in my life when I was striving for perfection and this was exhausting. Nothing is ever going to be perfect and it’s a reason to stop doing things. I learned from Bob Proctor to strive for excellence. Why? Because excellence is a commitment to completion. That statement completely changed my life and took so much pressure off of me allowing me to become a finisher. Complete the unfinished projects around your house and office.

5)             Build on your successes: Many of us were conditioned to compare our weaknesses with other people’s strengths and our failures to their successes. If that isn’t bad enough, we use our wonderful mental faculty of memory to remember every thing that didn’t work out just at the time that we want to step out and do something new. Change that right now by writing out what your strengths are and play to your strengths; hire your weaknesses. Look back over your life and savor your successes. Write them down and congratulate yourself for your success. When you have a new success, immediately use that fabulous energy to create more. Get on the phone and talk to others because they will get excited by your enthusiasm. Believe in yourself!

6)             Decision: I used to be terrified to make a decision. Whenever there was one that needed to be made, I would go around a take a poll from everyone. What do you think I should do? They would say do this and I’d go off saying I was going to do it. Then I would talk to the next person and they would say don’t do that, do this. I never took a stand for myself. I remained stuck by my inability to make decisions. Then I discovered that one of the most powerful things to learn was how to make a decision. Once a decision is made, everything that you need to make it happen starts to move towards you. Without a decision, it stays away from you. It is decision that pulls everything towards you. I learned instead of asking if it’s right or wrong to do something; it’s far more powerful to ask this question. “If I do this, will it move me in the direction of my goal or purpose?” If it does, then do it; otherwise leave it.

7)             Take Responsibility: Take responsibility for everything that is happening in your life. People who refuse to accept responsibility for the life they have created also don’t make decisions. The two habits of refusing responsibilities and the fear of making a decision go hand in hand and must be overcome in order to be an effective business leader. Resolve today to stop blaming, complaining or making excuses and instead accept responsibility. Then look for your next step to improve the situation. No one can improve anything if they are focused on blame or excuses. The creative faculty will shut down or be used negatively which is really going in the wrong direction. You can improve the situation by simply acknowledging responsibility and then asking “Now what is the best next step to take?”

8)             Continual Learning: It’s surprising at how many people I’ve met that stopped learning the day that they left school. It doesn’t matter what level of schooling they completed; many people aren’t doing anything more to develop themselves. I admire people that are continually learning. My car is like a university on wheels filled with motivational CDs. If there is a workshop, a seminar, a teleseminar; etc. on a subject that I am interested in, I participate. I read inspirational books everyday. It’s all about a thirst for knowledge and a desire to grow and learn. There’s no standing still because the world is constantly changing and we need to stay abreast. If you aren’t willing to invest in yourself; then don’t expect anyone else to invest in you.

9)             Gratitude: I have found that the more gratitude that I have for everything that is in my life, the better and better it gets. For a long time I was grateful for just the good things that came into my life and called the others bad luck. But it’s not good luck or bad luck; it’s gratitude for everything. When something happens, whether we put the label of good or bad on it, it’s there because we need it now. There is a message in that experience. One day I was walking on the beach and got a bite in the foot from some creature. It was swollen and itchy. I immediately took responsibility for the bite, went into gratitude and asked what the message could be. Suddenly I realized that I’d been dragging my feet on some projects which I quickly completed. Everything is in your life for a reason. If you are unhappy, then you aren’t being grateful.

10)          Giving: We’ve all heard that we must give in order to receive. It’s the absolute truth. But there are many who are trying to get without giving and consequently living a life filled with unhappiness. So whether it is how we give our services in business; how we give of ourselves in our friendships and relationships; how we give of ourselves to the community; however we are giving will be in exact measure to what we will receive. So if someone isn’t selling enough, it’s because they aren’t giving enough service. Forget about what you will gain and focus on what you can give and your world will change very quickly. Help others get what they want and you will automatically get what you.

I invite you to use these inner secrets to create the life of your dreams.

10 Inner Secrets of Success - the video

This article appeared in the Scotsman Guide Residential Edition and scotsmanguide.com, July 20, 2010.

Changing Your Results By Overcoming Fears

Napoleon Hill, in his classic book, Think And Grow Rich, wrote a chapter on the 6 most basic fears that every person has at one time or another. These fears can be devastating if one allows them to overtake their life and prevent people from achieving their goals or desires.

Worry and doubt are the seeds of fear. Negative thoughts swirling around in the conscious mind cause fear. Left unchecked, fear eventually leads to anxiety. Over time, the constant stress from the worry, doubt, fear and anxiety creates disease. Therefore, it’s important to understand what you can do change your results by overcoming these fears in all aspects of life and business.

As you explore these common fears, be willing to accept whatever you discover about yourself.Awareness, bringing consciousness, to what you are thinking, feeling and doing is a powerful starting point for change. The 6 fears as set forth by Hill are listed in the order that they commonly appear in people’s lives:

1. POVERTY: This insidious fear is typically the offshoot of bad experiences with untrustworthy people. After such an instance, a person may feel exploited. As you view your life to see if this fear has a foothold, understand that it can appear in different ways. Common signs that indicate this could be playing a part in your life are lack of ambition, inability to make decisions, a negative attitude and making excuses for any failures. Other warning signs are indifference and procrastination.If you spot these signs, have compassion for self. Then take one and start put together a plan to make changes. Get coaching for quicker results.

2. CRITICISM: This fear will show up in several different ways such as overspending trying to keep up with the latest purchases of friends and neighbors, bragging and easily being embarrassed. All of these conditions have other people in control of how you view yourself rather than seeing your own value. People will live a smaller life trying to avoid criticism. Look to see if you use other people as reasons why you do or don’t do something. Do an analysis of how you react when others give you feedback.

3. ILL HEALTH:Some people are focused on poor health instead of enjoying good health. Do you have a cabinet full of medicines? Do you want to know the details of someone’s illnesses and start looking for symptoms? Do you have regular pains or conditions that you speak about to others? Instead of focusing on little aches and pains, look for all the perfectly functioning parts of you and develop a regular routine for increasing your health. Other signs of this fear are self-pity and substance abuse, which can also include over-eating.

4. LOSS OF LOVE:Symptoms of this fear are jealousy and fault-finding. People have been known to commit fraud, crime and other unsavory acts in their efforts to hold onto to someone’s love or to buy affection. In the process, they lose themselves and what’s important. If a person feels that they must be or do something in order to be loved or show love, then fear is ruling in that relationship – not love. Love is unconditional and doesn’t require anything from anyone.

5. OLD AGE: Age is completely relevant and irrelevant. Others may tell us that we are either too young or too old to do something, however only the individual’s opinion counts. Whenever age becomes a question or an issue, face it head on and do what you want regardless of age.

6. DEATH: There are people that are so afraid of dying that they never really start living. Instead of worrying about what might be or could happen, switch the focus to living in joy. Look for what you can do to enhance your and other people’s lives.

All other fears are minor in comparison and can be grouped under these six headings.

Further, all of these fears are subject to group mentality and can be seen running their cycles throughout time. For instance, worldwide we have been stuck in a cycle of FEAR OF POVERTY since 2008.

Looking back in history, we can see that during World War II, we were in the cycle of FEAR OF DEATH. Following the war, the world entered into the cycle of FEAR OF ILL HEALTH, which was evidenced by the epidemic of disease.

A good example of the opposite of this fear can be seen in the medical field. Doctors and nurses are less apt to become ill or overcome by disease because they do not fear disease. Medical personnel come into contact with seriously contagious diseases on a daily basis without becoming infected. It’s their lack of fear that provides protection.

All fears are states of mind and we all have the ability to choose our state of mind. It only takes awareness of what we are thinking and doing, then deciding to start making choices that support your desires.

After studying the wealthiest and most successful men of the time, Napoleon Hill came to the conclusion that a person’s thought impulses reveal themselves into their physical equivalent. A person can originate their thoughts or they can pick them up from the ether. As they become emotionally involved in those thoughts, they will create in their reality what they were thinking about.

The fastest and most effective way to overcome these fears is to set a massive goal that will take your complete attention and focus in order to achieve it.

Rather than focusing on or relinquishing to fears, it’s far better to find something that is worthy of your time, attention and devotion, and bring that into physical reality.