Getting More Done with Less Effort

These days everyone’s professional and personal lives are full and busy. Extra activities, like holidays, retreats or special projects, can play havoc with the schedule. At the same time, these events can bring us pleasure and connection that may be lost on a day-to-day basis.

Instead of thinking of giving up or feeling overwhelmed, here are some time-savings tips to free up your schedule and bring more joy into your life.

1)     Do the most important things first. The night before write down the goal-achieving tasks that you want to accomplish the next day. Work on those items first thing in the morning and do all of them while you are fresh and focused. Anything that pops up while you are working on these tasks should be delayed until you finish the critical items. Doing this will give you additional energy that will make the other tasks feel easy and go quickly.

2)   Prioritize your work each day. Take control of your time and your tasks. If someone else assigns a new task or project, make certain that you know how it will fit with what you already have as priorities. Always make certain that your time is spent on the tasks that will give the highest return. Continually review the priority of what you are doing as things change.

3)   Delegate whenever possible. If there are tasks that need to be done, but you don’t have the time, look for ways to delegate tasks. Delegate tasks to others that can do them faster and easier than you can. Decide who is the best person to do each task and assign them accordingly.

4)   Less is more. Another tip that may seem counter-intuitive is to do less. The thinking behind this idea is to focus on the most important tasks. Concentrating on the order of importance and assigning the right person to do each task actually frees up time.

5)    Schedule tasks in your calendar and assign a time limit for each one. Frequently work tends to fill the allotted time. If you start a project without assigning a time limit, it will take far longer to accomplish. If you find that the project requires more time than you allotted, then you can set another specified time in the calendar.

6)   Batch similar tasks together. If you are going to make phone calls, make all of the calls one after another. If you have emails to do, complete all of them in a batch. If you have to leave the office for a meeting, complete any other outside tasks at the same time.The idea behind this is that grouping tasks saves time while focusing on similar matters increases your efficiency.

7)    Focus on completing a project before starting the next one or allowing interruptions. In recent years, people have been conditioned to multi-task believing that they are more effective; however, in actuality, they are achieving less and settling for mediocre results. By focusing on one project, giving it your complete attention and best work, it will be completed in less time.

8)   Eliminate or avoid things that drain your energy. For example, many meetings are a waste of time. Get or provide agendas prior to meetings. Make certain that your attendance will be beneficial. If you have nothing to contribute or won’t receive information that will aid you in your immediate projects, then bow out in favor of working on your highest priority. If something can be accomplished without a meeting, then don’t schedule one.

9)   Guard your time. Although it’s important to build relationships with co-workers and team members, avoid unproductive or long conversations that can zap your motivation and energy. Instead use identified break times to foster relationships. Avoid any gossip.

10)  Learn to say no. Although it may be uncomfortable, there are times when it’s best to say no. If you are seen as the person that gets things done, soon everyone will be knocking at your door. Rather than becoming the people pleaser, make sure that additional work fits with your skills and talents as well as your commitments. Tell people when you would realistically be able to complete their task and see if it fits with their expectations.

 

 

Tips for a Happier Holiday Season

As we’ve just celebrated Thanksgiving in the USA, it’s a great time to set your intentions while being in the energy of thanks and gratitude.

I wanted to take this opportunity to share some of my tips of to do if you have relationship or overwhelm issues around the holidays. Of course, it’s better to heal the energy behind these patterns, but until then, these tips can make a huge difference by giving you have some strategies to use to protect yourself.

1. Deflect

There are always ways that you can be triggered during the holidays. I know with me the negative conversations usually started with one of my big blunders or a recollection of one of my bad experiences which everyone would have a big laugh about, but I didn’t think it was funny or appropriate. For years I got sucker punched by these but then I learned about deflecting. Deflecting is amazingly simply and works 95% of the time. When someone brings up something you don’t want to talk about or a topic that you know will go in the wrong direction, have a topic that you can quickly take people to without missing a beat. Initially I thought people would realize what’s happening, but they never do. They go right where you lead them. You can use this throughout the day with ease and soon you’ll find you leave an event without feeling bad about yourself. Those deflections could be about a sporting event, a vacation plan, a child’s event, a current movie, etc. Just come armed with a bunch of those and use them as needed.

2. Come later and don’t stay so long

People have the habit of staying at these family events far longer than is necessary. After a while things just ‘naturally’ go to the bad side. Possibly because of the over-indulging that is normally associated with the holidays. Have a good reason as to why you can’t be there early and then leave while things are still on a happy note. Only talk about happy occasions and experiences that you are having. Do NOT mention any unpleasantness because people will want to drill down on that. Keep conversations light and easy. Talk about their interests even if you don’t like them if you can’t think of anything else. This is about self-protection and keeping calm, peaceful and confident.

3. Set limits

Prior to getting to where you are going or if you are expecting company, prior to their arrival, set limits on what you will be doing, saying and sharing. So much of what you experience at these types of events is based on your intention. If you don’t have any, then anything can happen. Set the intentions of what you will allow for yourself and what you want to have happen.

4. Self-care

Take good care of yourself during the holidays. Treat yourself to things that feel good. It could be a walk in the park, a hot bath, hot chocolate, watching old movies — you name it, but try to treat yourself each day to at least one thing that gives you a good and happy feeling. The more, the better!

5. Choose to be happy

I like to start each day where I announce to the Universe that I choose to be happy. Let me tell you quite frankly. The days I ‘forget’ to do that start to go wonky very quickly. Choose what you want to feel and experience for each day.

It’s your life and your choice. Choose wisely.

Change Your Results

Is this a possibility or a misnomer? How can someone possibly change their results? If you’re late to a meeting or missed an appointment, it’s over and done with so how can someone change that?

When I speak to clients about changing their results, I’m referring to the future. It’s important to understand this because as humans, we continually do the same thing over and over again, even when it gives us poor results. Einstein referred to that instinct as the definition of insanity.

Frequently people will look at their results and try to change them or they might say ‘fix’ them. However, in looking back at unsatisfactory results and trying to change them, a person is actually programming themselves for more failures. The past is the past so just let it go.

Change starts with thoughts. New thoughts. New approaches and an willingness to do something different. Intention is fundamental to change and to action. Consciously making choices that move you into a new direction is so powerful, however, unfortunately all too often people are looking in their rearview mirror and basing their potential for the future on the past.

Setting an intention starts the engine, but the fuel comes from the energy that you put towards your intention as you take action. This isn’t about becoming the Eveready Bunny – this is about taking actions that will move you towards your goal. One needle-moving action is required and provides a solid basis for the next step.

As you start down this new pathway of being open to new possibilities and consciously setting your intentions to change your results, there will be obstacles. You’ll experience strange feelings and resistance to take actions. This is a normal part of change that must occur. If you don’t experience these, then you aren’t doing anything different. You will HAVE to talk to people you don’t know, do things you haven’t done before and take actions that are completely foreign to you. Fear will rear its ugly head. It’s okay. Just do it scared, but DO IT.

In my Change Your Results NOW! program, I teach people a simple, proven, 6-step process that gets them on track to quick success. Armed with the full knowledge of what happens chemically to them when they set about making changes gives them the assurance that they are on the right track. By following the process, they have the confidence knowing the goal is theirs.

Don’t settle for failures and unhappy outcomes. Eliminate the struggle and panic. Make the best choice for your future by getting help to change your results now.

Is 1 Goal Enough; Are 3 Too Many?

 

I just received an email from a woman that took my Essentials of Starting A Business course 4 years ago. She took all that she learned and started a business while she continued to work in her job.

Within a year, her business was so successful that she quit her job and ran her business full time. During her second year of business, she got caught in what I call the “the shiny object syndrome” where she took her eye off her core business and started getting involved in other things that she thought would bring success. Within 6 months, she almost lost her business. She regrouped, focused on her main business and it took off again.

As she described what’s currently happening – things I’ve heard before from other clients – I decided to share her email so others can learn from her experience. To maintain confidentiality, I’ve changed her name and eliminated some personal details.

Dear Susan…

I hope this email finds you prosperous and happy :)) It HAS been a while since my last business confession… I mean conversation ;p

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I am doing well. Happy and healthy.

I have certain goals to achieve before I move next year to live abroad for 4 years. I’m working hard to get a decent momentum going.

I wanted to report that I think I had too many goals as 3 goals proved to be quite a juggling act. My #1 goal became a reality and I am excelling in it. My business is blooming nicely. The 2nd goal is a waiting game and the long-term future of my company depends on its success.

The 3rd goal was adding an activity to my company. When I did this, things started to go south very quickly so I had to cut it loose. I didn’t let it drag for 1 more month and it was so so so hard! But when you can foresee a big loss… cut and move on. Yes?

I spoke to a friend (entrepreneur / architect / opening high-end furniture shop) telling him of my actions when I saw the projects fell apart, etc. (I was upset and still unsure if I had cut it all too soon)…

He told me he envied me because he had a similar goal as well before, took a chance on it, saw it wasn’t going well, but stuck with it. He said he lost a lot of money over a 2 year period, came to realize it will not get any better… and finally closed it. He said with my quick action I saved thousands of Pride money ;)

So now I feel good about my decision and think … if it HAD worked, I would have felt overwhelmed as the project would have required a lot more attention. I’m happier and better focused on my 2 goals. I don’t need more, at least for 4 years… :))

That’s what I wanted to share with you

Love,

Sara

Here’s my response to her email.

Dear Sara,

It’s always wonderful to hear from you and learn about your discoveries and adventures!

Congratulations on your upcoming changes. Living abroad always gives a different perspective and great opportunities to grow and expand beyond our day-to-day limitations.

I agree that too many goals are hard to handle. I like to take a goal and break it down into bites. I can build the image of what I want to achieve and hold it firmly in my mind while taking actions to bring it in. It happens faster and I’m motivated by the little celebrations as they move me closer and closer.

I look for the 2 or 3 power moves that I can do each day and take those quickly. It’s not about busy work or taking on so much that one becomes overwhelmed, but those certain steps that you know will make an impact. If you aren’t sure what to do, sit quietly, relax and ask your higher self what action could you take that will serve you in your highest. Sometimes you may have to do this several or even many times over the course of days or weeks. Be open and willing to act when an idea comes to you.

I know you are very intuitive which is why you knew and followed that nudge to get out of that side of the business. Continue listening to your inner voice as that’s your greatest guide and asset.

Where are you moving to next year?

Onward and upward!

Lots of love

Susan

Realistically there are only so many goals that we can pursue at one time. I like to have a list of goals that I want to achieve over the next year or even 3 years. However, I look for the most important one and I focus on that. Sometimes, it seems almost like magic, when other goals on the list come into reality without any effort at all.

Flipping the Energy on Your Goal

 

What’s holding you back from enjoying a happy relationship, a successful business or whatever your dream goal is right now?

Most likely you have some fear or failure energy attached to the goal; particularly if this is something that you’ve been wanting for an extended period of time. It’s common to find negative energy underneath the desired goal. However if that negative energy is stronger than the positive energy, then it will control the outcome.

Here an exercise to flip the energy you are putting on the actions you are taking while working towards to your goal. Get colored pens, some paper and sit where you will be undisturbed.

1)   Write your goal at the top of the paper. Use words that inspire you, i.e., “My exciting trip to India.”

2)   Then write somewhere on the page the feelings you want be experiencing as you are working towards your goal. If you think of the old saying “It’s not the destination, it’s the journey”, how do you want to feel while you are on your quest towards your goal.

3)   Write some questions you can ask yourself to keep your focus on the feelings you choose to experience. As you go through the day from to time check to see what the answers are to those questions at that moment. See what you can do to bring yourself back into alignment with those feelings if you find you are out of sync.

4)  Take a few minutes and examine a couple of your typical stumbling blocks to achieving goals. For example, do you find yourself doing everything except what will take you towards to goal? Are you uptight and anxious about your goal? Are you working so hard without taking time for pleasure? Write down in simple, present tense what you would like to be or do instead of what you see you are being or doing.

5)   Create at least one mantra in simple, present tense that will inspire you each day to take action on your dream goal. It’s best if they are your own, but here are a few examples:

i)     I am an achiever and keep my focus on my joy.

ii)   I enjoy the present moment at all times.

iii)  I take pleasure in everything that I do.

6)   Write down what you will do when something comes up that appears to be an obstacle or negative. Making choices when you are in a situation gives you a better perspective.

Here’s an example:

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Do this and chart your progress over 30 days. Make any adjustments and keep going. You’ll reach your goals faster with less effort than ever before.

10 Inner Secrets of Success

I remember when I accepted a sales position with a tax law publishing company. It was straight commissions, no expenses and I worked from home. This job demanded a lot of self-motivation. I put together my plan of action by going through the computer print-outs of the customer database, set my dollar goal and got into action. Little did I know but the previous salesman, who had been employed by the company for 17 years, left under unhappy circumstances and took his anger out by convincing most of the customers to cancel their subscriptions. Now I had a choice: I could surrender my goal or get creative. I decided to make certain that everyone got the most value that they could out of their current subscription by spending an hour or so with the staff explaining some tips and tricks with the books. The reaction was nothing short of amazing. Many of them decided to re-subscribe and purchase other programs. At the end of the year, I hit my projected income within a mere $300.

We can change the outcomes in our lives by simply changing our own thoughts and decisions. We are conditioned to blame circumstances for our problems; but if this were true, then we would all be in the exact same circumstance. The difference between us is in the quality of our thoughts and ideas. We can become more effective in making changes if we know the underlying workings that govern our lives. As I thought about this and looked back over my sales career, I saw 10 keys that attributed to my success. I call them inner secrets because you can’t see them, but when you apply these to your life, the possibilities are unlimited.

1)             Cheerful expectancy: Expectation is such a wonderful word that promises excitement. Cheerful expectancy is even better. Just imagine waking up and just at the foot of your bed is a large package, wrapped in beautiful gold paper with a very large red bow tied around it. Guess what’s in there? It’s your day! Your gift is today and you can make it whatever you want. You can be enthusiastic, eager to do things and happily go about the simple matters of life or you can be tired, complaining and expecting the worst of things. Your approach to your day, your family, your clients – everything in life – is going to determine what you get back. Now I realize that there will be challenges some days, but even then, the way you approach those challenges has a significant impact on how the events will unfold. You will find that your attitude will be infectious and more good will come to you.

When I think about cheerful expectancy, I am reminded of one of the natural laws of the Universe; that being the Law of Polar Opposites. Simply this law states that opposites come with everything. So for example, you cannot have left without right, good without bad, in without out, up without down. The way to use this law then is to realize that no matter what happens during the day, you have the choice to focus on the positive or the negative. Whatever you choose to focus on, you’ll find and you can spend as much time as you want focusing on your choice. You can choose to see opportunity or you can choose to see lack. Use this law intentionally to create your experiences everyday.

2)             Set a goal and make a plan: When I was growing up and announced something that I wanted to have or to do, I was frequently asked how I was going to do it. Many times I didn’t know how so I surrendered the goal. Fortunately I came across Napoleon Hill’s book Think & Grow Rich in my early days of selling It was while reading this book that I discovered the importance of having goal along with the 6 steps to setting a goal which I still use today. I also learned that I didn’t have to know how I was going to achieve something; I only need to start advancing towards my goal and I would attract all the people, things and circumstances that I need in order to fulfill my goal. The ‘how’ doesn’t matter. Just build a big image of what it is that you want to achieve or to have, make a simple plan and start taking action. Just look for and take the first step.

3)             Do 1 proactive thing on your goal every single day: I have found in my own life as well as watching other people that it is very easy to let life get in the way of achieving your goal. By that I mean you can think that you are going to do something, but then other things come up so a day goes by, a week, a month, even a whole year and you haven’t moved any closer to the goal. Vow to do just one thing each day that will move you closer to your goal and do it first. Brian Tracy once said, “The urgent is never important and the important is never urgent.” What’s important is what you want to achieve in life and you have to put the urgency in there because no one else will.

4)             Deliver exceptional value strive for excellence: Look for how you can give your best in each interaction. There was a point in my life when I was striving for perfection and this was exhausting. Nothing is ever going to be perfect and it’s a reason to stop doing things. I learned from Bob Proctor to strive for excellence. Why? Because excellence is a commitment to completion. That statement completely changed my life and took so much pressure off of me allowing me to become a finisher. Complete the unfinished projects around your house and office.

5)             Build on your successes: Many of us were conditioned to compare our weaknesses with other people’s strengths and our failures to their successes. If that isn’t bad enough, we use our wonderful mental faculty of memory to remember every thing that didn’t work out just at the time that we want to step out and do something new. Change that right now by writing out what your strengths are and play to your strengths; hire your weaknesses. Look back over your life and savor your successes. Write them down and congratulate yourself for your success. When you have a new success, immediately use that fabulous energy to create more. Get on the phone and talk to others because they will get excited by your enthusiasm. Believe in yourself!

6)             Decision: I used to be terrified to make a decision. Whenever there was one that needed to be made, I would go around a take a poll from everyone. What do you think I should do? They would say do this and I’d go off saying I was going to do it. Then I would talk to the next person and they would say don’t do that, do this. I never took a stand for myself. I remained stuck by my inability to make decisions. Then I discovered that one of the most powerful things to learn was how to make a decision. Once a decision is made, everything that you need to make it happen starts to move towards you. Without a decision, it stays away from you. It is decision that pulls everything towards you. I learned instead of asking if it’s right or wrong to do something; it’s far more powerful to ask this question. “If I do this, will it move me in the direction of my goal or purpose?” If it does, then do it; otherwise leave it.

7)             Take Responsibility: Take responsibility for everything that is happening in your life. People who refuse to accept responsibility for the life they have created also don’t make decisions. The two habits of refusing responsibilities and the fear of making a decision go hand in hand and must be overcome in order to be an effective business leader. Resolve today to stop blaming, complaining or making excuses and instead accept responsibility. Then look for your next step to improve the situation. No one can improve anything if they are focused on blame or excuses. The creative faculty will shut down or be used negatively which is really going in the wrong direction. You can improve the situation by simply acknowledging responsibility and then asking “Now what is the best next step to take?”

8)             Continual Learning: It’s surprising at how many people I’ve met that stopped learning the day that they left school. It doesn’t matter what level of schooling they completed; many people aren’t doing anything more to develop themselves. I admire people that are continually learning. My car is like a university on wheels filled with motivational CDs. If there is a workshop, a seminar, a teleseminar; etc. on a subject that I am interested in, I participate. I read inspirational books everyday. It’s all about a thirst for knowledge and a desire to grow and learn. There’s no standing still because the world is constantly changing and we need to stay abreast. If you aren’t willing to invest in yourself; then don’t expect anyone else to invest in you.

9)             Gratitude: I have found that the more gratitude that I have for everything that is in my life, the better and better it gets. For a long time I was grateful for just the good things that came into my life and called the others bad luck. But it’s not good luck or bad luck; it’s gratitude for everything. When something happens, whether we put the label of good or bad on it, it’s there because we need it now. There is a message in that experience. One day I was walking on the beach and got a bite in the foot from some creature. It was swollen and itchy. I immediately took responsibility for the bite, went into gratitude and asked what the message could be. Suddenly I realized that I’d been dragging my feet on some projects which I quickly completed. Everything is in your life for a reason. If you are unhappy, then you aren’t being grateful.

10)          Giving: We’ve all heard that we must give in order to receive. It’s the absolute truth. But there are many who are trying to get without giving and consequently living a life filled with unhappiness. So whether it is how we give our services in business; how we give of ourselves in our friendships and relationships; how we give of ourselves to the community; however we are giving will be in exact measure to what we will receive. So if someone isn’t selling enough, it’s because they aren’t giving enough service. Forget about what you will gain and focus on what you can give and your world will change very quickly. Help others get what they want and you will automatically get what you.

I invite you to use these inner secrets to create the life of your dreams.

10 Inner Secrets of Success - the video

This article appeared in the Scotsman Guide Residential Edition and scotsmanguide.com, July 20, 2010.

Changing Your Results By Overcoming Fears

Napoleon Hill, in his classic book, Think And Grow Rich, wrote a chapter on the 6 most basic fears that every person has at one time or another. These fears can be devastating if one allows them to overtake their life and prevent people from achieving their goals or desires.

Worry and doubt are the seeds of fear. Negative thoughts swirling around in the conscious mind cause fear. Left unchecked, fear eventually leads to anxiety. Over time, the constant stress from the worry, doubt, fear and anxiety creates disease. Therefore, it’s important to understand what you can do change your results by overcoming these fears in all aspects of life and business.

As you explore these common fears, be willing to accept whatever you discover about yourself.Awareness, bringing consciousness, to what you are thinking, feeling and doing is a powerful starting point for change. The 6 fears as set forth by Hill are listed in the order that they commonly appear in people’s lives:

1. POVERTY: This insidious fear is typically the offshoot of bad experiences with untrustworthy people. After such an instance, a person may feel exploited. As you view your life to see if this fear has a foothold, understand that it can appear in different ways. Common signs that indicate this could be playing a part in your life are lack of ambition, inability to make decisions, a negative attitude and making excuses for any failures. Other warning signs are indifference and procrastination.If you spot these signs, have compassion for self. Then take one and start put together a plan to make changes. Get coaching for quicker results.

2. CRITICISM: This fear will show up in several different ways such as overspending trying to keep up with the latest purchases of friends and neighbors, bragging and easily being embarrassed. All of these conditions have other people in control of how you view yourself rather than seeing your own value. People will live a smaller life trying to avoid criticism. Look to see if you use other people as reasons why you do or don’t do something. Do an analysis of how you react when others give you feedback.

3. ILL HEALTH:Some people are focused on poor health instead of enjoying good health. Do you have a cabinet full of medicines? Do you want to know the details of someone’s illnesses and start looking for symptoms? Do you have regular pains or conditions that you speak about to others? Instead of focusing on little aches and pains, look for all the perfectly functioning parts of you and develop a regular routine for increasing your health. Other signs of this fear are self-pity and substance abuse, which can also include over-eating.

4. LOSS OF LOVE:Symptoms of this fear are jealousy and fault-finding. People have been known to commit fraud, crime and other unsavory acts in their efforts to hold onto to someone’s love or to buy affection. In the process, they lose themselves and what’s important. If a person feels that they must be or do something in order to be loved or show love, then fear is ruling in that relationship – not love. Love is unconditional and doesn’t require anything from anyone.

5. OLD AGE: Age is completely relevant and irrelevant. Others may tell us that we are either too young or too old to do something, however only the individual’s opinion counts. Whenever age becomes a question or an issue, face it head on and do what you want regardless of age.

6. DEATH: There are people that are so afraid of dying that they never really start living. Instead of worrying about what might be or could happen, switch the focus to living in joy. Look for what you can do to enhance your and other people’s lives.

All other fears are minor in comparison and can be grouped under these six headings.

Further, all of these fears are subject to group mentality and can be seen running their cycles throughout time. For instance, worldwide we have been stuck in a cycle of FEAR OF POVERTY since 2008.

Looking back in history, we can see that during World War II, we were in the cycle of FEAR OF DEATH. Following the war, the world entered into the cycle of FEAR OF ILL HEALTH, which was evidenced by the epidemic of disease.

A good example of the opposite of this fear can be seen in the medical field. Doctors and nurses are less apt to become ill or overcome by disease because they do not fear disease. Medical personnel come into contact with seriously contagious diseases on a daily basis without becoming infected. It’s their lack of fear that provides protection.

All fears are states of mind and we all have the ability to choose our state of mind. It only takes awareness of what we are thinking and doing, then deciding to start making choices that support your desires.

After studying the wealthiest and most successful men of the time, Napoleon Hill came to the conclusion that a person’s thought impulses reveal themselves into their physical equivalent. A person can originate their thoughts or they can pick them up from the ether. As they become emotionally involved in those thoughts, they will create in their reality what they were thinking about.

The fastest and most effective way to overcome these fears is to set a massive goal that will take your complete attention and focus in order to achieve it.

Rather than focusing on or relinquishing to fears, it’s far better to find something that is worthy of your time, attention and devotion, and bring that into physical reality.

What if?

Having worked with many people over the years on setting and achieving goals, I’ve often found when asking people to write down what they would like to see, do, be, experience or have that they are stumped after naming 3. This is one of the main reasons why they aren’t drawing more into their lives.

We are goal-striving creatures. The fuel that pushes us forward comes from having something that we want to achieve. If someone is stuck or in a slump, quite often it’s because they don’t have a goal that inspires them or something big they are going after. The bigger the goal and the greater meaning achieving it have for them, the more energy they have for taking action.

Here are 5 questions to get your creative juices flowing and encourage you to choose some worthy goals. Write down your answers and put as much detail in it as you can.

  1. If money were flowing freely in your life, what would you do? Instead of having a goal of money, imagine you have all the money you could ever want and then state what you would do with it. This gets people over the hurdle of thinking they can’t do something because they don’t have money which keeps them in that trap. Think beyond where you are and make choices from that standpoint.
  2. What is the biggest desire you’ve had in your life? Everyone has something they’ve wanted to be, do or have but couldn’t really allow themselves to achieve it. Release any reason or excuse of why it’s not possible and write a story about what that would be as you see yourself being, doing or having it.
  3. As a dreamy-eyed child, what did you really want? Children are not afraid of expressing their desires; however, many adults will jump right in and tell them why it’s impossible. Soon the child stops dreaming so big and conforms to what the family believes is possible. Go back to that point and recall your big, wild dream. Write what it was and a story of you looking back after having achieved that desire.
  4. What do you love doing so much that you completely lose track of time? Some people can be hindered from dreaming of their desires because of their current responsibilities. Write about what inspires, excites and captivates you. Include your feelings and look for what else comes up as you visualize you doing what you love.
  5. What would you be doing if you knew you couldn’t fail? Many adults will speak about their fear of failure as a valid reason for remaining where they are or not stepping forward towards what they want. In essence, they are playing small and thinking they are being safe; however, they are missing out on the best part of life. Go beyond any fears or thoughts of failure by only visualizing success and write about what you would be, do or have. If some negative thought comes up while you are doing this, just remind yourself that success is the only option and clearly define what your success would look like.

Writing down your answers is an essential element to this exercise for the simple reason that writing causes thinking and helps to maintain focus. You may be surprised at what you find when you go back and review your answers.

SCORE Big Setting Goals

My burning question for decades is this: “Why aren’t we taught how to set and achieve goals in school?” Think about it, being proficient at goal setting and goal achieving is essential to feeling good and fulfilling one’s human potential. Even better, goals add excitement, direction and are at the basis of every achievement in life. Goals enable you to do the work you want to do, live where you want to live, be with the people you enjoy, and become the person you want to be; in other words, live the life of your dreams.

Unfortunately estimates show that only 3% of people write their goals down and less than 1%actually review, update and rewrite their goals on a regular basis. The potential of reaching, and quite possibly exceeding a goal, starts by writing it down. The very act of writing a goal is so powerful. Think of it as though you are carving your desire into the Universe. A side benefit from writing is that it causes thinking.   As you write, you’ll find you become clearer on what it is that you actually desire. Thinking about a goal isn’t enough; it must be written.

If goal setting and achieving are so fundamental to experiencing wonderful things, people, circumstances and events in life, then you might wonder why is it that so few people set goals? I think there are five basic reasons.

1. Half-hearted Approach.

Whenever I speak to a person who has achieved something spectacular, I find out that the achievement occurred after they decided to “get serious.” In their mind, they “burned their bridges” and ‘completely focused’ on what they wanted. In other words, until you become completely determined about your goals, put your full commitment towards them; nothing really happens.

2. They Don’t Understand.

They don’t understand the importance or value of setting a goal. People who start setting goals very early in life usually come from goal-setting families. Theimportance of setting goals is stressed from the beginning and it becomes a habit.

3. They Don’t Know How.

Incredible as it seems, a person can go through 15 to 18 years of education and never once receive a single hour of instruction on how to set goals. This tragically is a worldwide phenomenon. Because goal setting isn’t taught in school, many people go on to think it’s not important or even imagine there is a process that can be learned.

4. Fear of Criticism.

Fear is the number one reason why people remain stuck. How many times have you seen an unhappy or dissatisfied person allow the fear of rejection or criticism to stop them from even setting a goal ? They’ve given up before they got started. Many people don’t set worthwhile goals because they have found that every time they did set a goal, someone told them they couldn’t possibly achieve it.

5. Fear of failure — and this may be the most important reason of all.

Most people who don’t set goals allow the fear of failure to stop them. It has been said that the fear of failure is the greatest obstacle to success. This fear is a major psychological barrier to trying.

Overcoming these obstacles and setting well-defined goals will enable you to focus your efforts and energy toward something that’s important to you. Goal setting gives you a target to aim towards and develops self-discipline. Keep the end result in mind and focus on the next step rather than becoming distracted and going off in other directions.

Let me share with you five keys that will help you do that by using the acronym of  “SCORE”. Each of these keys starts with one of the letters in the word “SCORE”. Whenever you find yourself getting off the track, simply repeat the word “SCORE” and think about how each letter stands for a key that just might apply to your current situation.

The first letter is S and it stands for “Start”.

Set a big, juicy smart goal that excites and scares you; then get started by looking for the first step you can take right now to move yourself towards your goal. Many times the only difference between success and failure is simply taking action. Just start where you are now, do something to begin moving towards your goal.

The second letter, C, stands for “Commitment”.

Commit to taking action each day on your goal. Write down each night 3 to 6 actions you will take the next day to move closer to your goal. Take those actions first things in the morning without delay.

The third letter is O and it is for “Opportunity”.

Successful people don’t wait for opportunities to turn their goals into reality; they make them. They take responsibility for their actions and the life they wish to create. Once you have taken the time to decide exactly what you want, you will experience an endless flow of opportunities that will help move you in that direction.

The letter R stands for “Review & Rewrite”.

Once you are in action moving towards a goal, do a monthly review of what’s working, what’s not working and what’s missing. Quit doing what’s not working and bring in what’s missing. Reaffirm your commitment to your goal by rewriting it. Celebrating the steps you’ve taken and the knowledge you’ve gained in the process will increase the speed at which you move ahead.

The letter E stands for “Enthusiasm”.

Everything you accomplish begins with a decision. Decide to approach each day with enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is aroused by 2 things:
1)  An ideal–an idea that you are in love with—that takes your imagination by storm, and

2) a plan for carrying that idea into practice. Your attitude will determine whether or not you reach your goal. Be excited and enthusiastic while you are working on your goal. Know that it is yours.

You will come across obstacles in the pursuit of your goal. These obstacles are actually gifts for us to discover more about ourselves and to bring those gifts to the surface. Understand that the bigger the goal — the bigger the obstacles. These are bigger opportunities to grow. It’s not so much that you reach your goal, but what you become in the process of attaining the goal.

Follow The Path of Non-Resistance

Another conditioning pattern that the masses operate under is the thinking that if we use force, we will create harmony. You see this with fights, wars, etc. It’s a lie. It’s impossible to achieve peace and harmony by creating resistance.

Consider the War on Drugs that President Nixon declared back in 1971. Instead of diminishing or eliminating the drug problem, it has only worsened.

We have sayings that are frequently used that indicate this thinking. We steel ourselves for a confrontation. We talk about outwitting others or breaking down the opposition. In business, we talk about crushing our competitors. Many businesses use war analogies when prepping their sales teams to go out selling. You see this in sports too, especially in the contact sports, where they’ll say things like, “Let’s kill the other team.”

However, interestingly most retailers are in harmony with this law whether they know it or not. How? By offering free demonstrations, free delivery, interest-free loans, buy one thing and get the other one half off. They don’t do this because they are so loving and generous – it’s because they want to eliminate any resistance and make it easy for you to purchase.

That’s why the store doors are open or automatically open when you near them. They do this to invite customers and prosperity in.

Elevators and escalators are other examples of eliminating resistance. Let’s face it most people would refuse to walk up 5 flights to get to the top of a department store. Basement stores have found that customers are willing to walk down as long as there is an escalator that goes. Once again, making it easy so there’s no resistance.

Stores invest millions to understand consumers, how to attract them, how to eliminate resistance and entice them to purchase.

Every salesperson worth their salt knows the value of asking many questions that will be answered with a ‘yes’ to get people used to saying ‘yes’. They want to make it easy for people to make a purchase.They wouldn’t want people to be saying no-no-no and then ask them to buy something. Kids instinctively know and do the same thing.

Now let’s look at what a lot of people do when they speak about money. On one hand, people will tell you they want success, a big house, great vacations, new cars – you name it. But then when they are speaking, they are in the habit of sayings things like “can’t afford it, costs too much, can’t do it” – everything surrounding their conversations about money and the good life is based on fear, poverty, lack and limitation. They even teach the same thing to their children. It becomes a perpetual cycle.

So think of retailers again. They aren’t going to advertise all kinds of products, have a sale and do everything to draw customers to them – but then bar the doors shut so the customers can’t come in.

Why do people do this? That’s essentially what they are doing when they say they want things but then talk about why they can’t have them. They do it so automatically without any thought of what they are creating.

To be in harmony with the law of non-resistance, you don’t have to get over or understand something. If you are doing any of the things that I talked about, just stop doing them and change your language to say things like: “I’m working for success and prosperity in my life.” Look for ways that you can be non-resistant to what you desire.

When I think about prosperity, I use a little stream coming down the side of a mountain for imagery. When the stream comes to a fallen branch or a boulder. It doesn’t stop and complain or worry about the obstacle. It just meanders around it and continues on.

Many people when they are in pursuit of a goal, hit an obstacle, they shout, cry, complain or even give up, or fight and rail against it instead of looking for another way. A better approach would be to ask, “Hmmh, this (obstacle) must be here for a reason. What’s good about this? What’s the message for me?” It could be that you should be making a shift, but you missed the earlier clues. Or it could be that it actually is leading you to something even better.

Release any resistance and open yourself up to all the good can come to you. The resistance causes friction. Understand this, friction is a negative energy. We attract according to the energy that we are putting out or doing something in. Working against resistance is wasting energy too as it takes more energy to push against something than to flow with it. A person will get what they don’t want until they release the resistance.

You can see in many peoples’ faces the hard battle that they have fought in life. They see everything as being outside of them – however, the outside is a reflection of what they are being inside.

Another key point in understanding the Law of Non-Resistance is to be grateful for all that you have. Praise everything that you have. So even if you have an old computer that is slow and can’t do some of the things you want to do on it, instead of complaining about it and kicking or slapping it, praise it for all it has done for you over the years.

Praise it for how fast it is remembering a time when the speed it has now was incredibly fast; particularly when comparedto doingtasks by hand. I’m sure if you try, you’ll come up with many things that you can praise about it. Be grateful for everythingthe computer does for you and the ease you have because of it.

Maybe talk to it about giving it a special place while you bring in another one to do the harder work. As you ease up your reactions to things, the Universe will respond to that which you want – in this case a new computer.

It’s the same with weight. Many people are unhappy about their weight and when they look at themselves, they think and say terrible things. They groan about getting dressed or buying clothes. They carry a lot of negative opinions around about themselves.

They assume everyone feels the same way about them and have stories about how other people see them. Then they struggle with food and there’s this endless circle of dieting, losing, gaining, etc. They don’t realize that they have created this resistance, this battle.

Where instead if they praised their body for all that it does for them. Praise it for how well it runs. How well it supports them. How well it processes food. How well it responds to a change in food. How well it responds to exercise. How quickly it makes changes. How beautiful it is. Then they would find their body would change and adapt to how they are being in the body.

We actually attract what we expect. How often have you heard someone say right after something they didn’t want to happen? “That’s just what I expected.” Their expectation brought it to them.

Bless every so-called obstacle that comes along. Be willing to understand it and look for what’s good about it. Instead of calling it a stumbling block; call it a stepping stoneleading you to your highest good and you’ll soon see many wonderful things showing up in your life.